When I was auditioning for Project Runway I remember Michael Khors pointing out that my personal style did not reflect my designs. I designed for the eccentric types who no matter the occasion dressed for the stage. It is a dream to dress popstars, off-beat fashion icons and eccentric heiresses. Having no sense of self was reflecting in my dress and eventually my designs. I looked outside of my self for who I was and found that I was trying to please everyone which is a hopeless feeling because it is impossible. As the show played out I tried to design for the judges, the viewers and anyone else who would set their gaze my way. The result was watered-down designs and undesirable designer.
I've since practiced expressing myself fearlessly and seen a much greater outcome. After a fashion show I hope for a room full of people that love and hate what I just created. To strike no emotion would be a disaster. It is more important to get them talking about you than loving you. Sometimes you have to be the dog that bites a few asses to get the heard moving ;)